It’s amazing how much emotion pours from somewhere it’s hard to define or measure. I realize that I have been trying to make sense of love, loss, fear, excitement for all of my life, trying to understand it or quantify it, or maybe just to avoid feeling it!
I discussed with someone I love dearly the concept of logic. That logic is a tool that can’t measure emotion or it’s cause adequately. That logic is something that you can use to deduct reasonably the causes and effects in reality. But that it is in many sense useless to deduct the cause of things outside our normal range of perception, such as where emotion comes from or why we feel. I had an awareness that I use logic to avoid feeling. That I go up into my head and try to figure out WHY I am feeling, or explain WHAT is happening. But this is a strategy to avoid feeling the feeling itself.
When someone dies it is always a great opportunity. This is a hackneyed idea, but probably because it is so true. I am noticing how much feeling I have, how much emotion I am capable of feeling, and that this is just what it is. That I would need to control it is really a problem, not the feeling itself.
M.
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embrace your emotions, but do not be overpowered by them. understand them in order to maintain the balance between logic and feeling. both have their place in the duality of existence.
You are so right, I just came back from funerals of the brother of one of my friends and even if I had not ever seen her brother I just couldn’t help but to cry. Cry deeply for her and not being able to control it, which like you mentioned, is not quite bad at all. Keeping all that energy inside eventually explodes to get out in an ugly way.
that is so true mark…and feeling what we feel for something that is trully our own would take alot from you…i tried countless reasons to understand love and how people could deal with the pressures that come along with it…loss of someone is trully and emotional spill and the mourning that follows behind it…usually i trust my judgement and logic in everything i do…doesn’t matter what scenario it may be…but i do also agree with anonymous that you should also embrace it and not over power it…people have limits…and it hurts alot…
The heart has its own principles and language, that “logic” knows not of (it’s the wrong “tool” so to speak).
Using logic therefore to “control” the heart is not a good idea, nor is it to abandon learning the principle & language of the heart.
The language of the heart requires one to listen – really listen.. and from there we learn that such language includes acceptance, appreciation..love..
it is the language of the world.
This is so true,a lot of my life i have thought and question these things.recently a friend of mine died,i wasn’t enormously close with him,but he was a good honest guy,and was always really nice to me.i can’t remember the last time i spoke to him,and that bothers me,everything you said i feel it.you couldn’t be more right man,nice blog.
Haha! This post speaks volumes about your British lineage, Mark.
(((how odd, though, to constantly want to control your emotions when you’re, by trade, an actor)))
This is a good point, when I learned about how Buddhist believe in breaking attachments leading to happiness I thought that meant cutting yourself off and learning how to not let things bother you, if you do that you will always be happy. But now I am thinking that maybe they didnt mean it like that, maybe they meant breaking attachments to one thing or one person is good because then you will be open and love everyone and everything and feel open. I think in our society we are very closed off, most times a hug that lasts to long is sexual, everything has to lead to sexual, we are very closed off and if you break those type of attachments how could you not be happy and comfortable and just be love for everyone?
Does that make sense at all?
I think our society gets hung up on “negative” emotions — you are raised not to express anger, sorrow, pride, etc… The negative emotions are just the other side of the coin of positive emotions. We are humans. We feel things. I think it’s unnatural not to. If you keep them bottled up, it just makes you sick. You don’t have a mind without a body — it gets effected too. How do we positively express our negative emotions?
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