The thing about honesty is you can only be as honest as you are aware. Really, I think honesty is an effect of how we are with ourselves, and so if you don’t have a lot of inner honesty, you can’t really be honest with people!
So here’s the problem: how do you know you’re being honest with yourself? Have you ever had an experience where you truly thought and believed something was true, and then got some information that showed you that it wasn’t? Even something simple, like you thought you knew the best route to get somewhere, and then found out that there was actually a better way? How would you have ever found out that that wasn’t true, if you had not been able to choose to see outside of your own perspective, and take in new information?
Extend that to the most true thing you can think of (like maybe, can you live without love?) and I find that my ability to be honest is only equal to my willingness to explore if I’m wrong. How many people do you know who are really willing to do that?
Honestly?
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Honestly?:P
Well I think it depends on your first intention. If you belied it to be the truth, then you were honest. You can definitively be wrong and still be honest.
……is such a lonely woooord…everyone is so untruuuue… ^^
Honesty is hard but very good.I agree with what you said.There are times that people choose to believe something so strongly that that becomes the truth for them.And they aren’t aware it’s actually not.
I think that honesty can also be linked to pride.Like how you said about the route and finding the best way.They always say guys don’t ask for direction cause it’s a blip in their ego.And when they get lost it’s hard to admit they were wrong.
Telling the truth is hard because you have to own up to a lot of things,like admitting you may have been wrong.
Honesty is definitely the best policy!When we are willing to reliaze their are certain hings out of our control and the fact we can’t always be right,then we can perhaps be able to be a little more honest.
But it still won’t be an easy thing to do.
I read this days ago and cogitated it all that time. I don’t think I’d have any particular problem with being proved wrong about something – I’d have more of a problem with everyone else knowing I was wrong! Which, when I thought about it, seemed to filter down to honesty being tied up with (for me) ‘reputation’. To suggest to anyone that you could easily ‘live without love’ and then be ‘exposed’ to be basically quite lonely and emotionally stunted would (for me) instantly BRAND me as all sorts of unenviable things — immature, short-sighted, sensationalist, a bad judge of human character etc etc.
I suppose I could live with just me thinking I was sorely mistaken, but to have everyone else see that too – oooh, painful!
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